It will take us a longer time explaining how self care has been inappropriately explained over the years.
You keep seeing it mentioned in self-help books or magazine articles and yet don’t have a clear sense of how you’re supposed to add it to your life.
Truth is, there are so many self care routines out there, now the twist is, not all these practices suit everyone. This is why this article will guide you through the benefits of self care: why you have to include it in your routine and definitely which best suit you as we will explore the types.
What is Self Care?
Self care, in a nutshell, is about being kind to yourself, just as you would be to others.
It is about being conscious of how much of yourself you are giving out to people around you and knowing when exactly to stop, so you don’t satisfy them at the expense of yourself.
Self care, is you being passionate about yourself. As a woman, knowing what is right for your body, home and knowing how to manage your resources so excess expenses wouldn’t end up weighing on you, which could threaten your mental health.
However, according to The Law of Attraction (https://www.thelawofattraction.com/self-care-tips/), it’s important to note that not everything that feels good is self-care. We can all be tempted to use unhealthy coping mechanisms like drugs, alcohol, over-eating, and risk-taking. These self-destructive activities help us to regulate challenging emotions, but the relief is temporary.
Do you really need self care?
You have read to this point, fine, but do you still think this is actually for you? Do you think this is the right answer to your question or you will just pass?
I understand you don’t have the time and this is why I will give you a checklist to determine if this is for you, or not.
Now as explained above, Self-care means looking after yourself so you can avoid fatigue and illness. It means if you’re asked to list the most important thing in your life, you would list yourself first.
Below are a list of check items that would guide you to make a decision on whether self care would be of help to you right now? Have a look and see if this self-care checklist, as prepared by The Happy Journals (https://thehappyjournals.com/benefits-of-self-care/) applies to you:
– You feel overwhelmed at work and home
– Your calendar is full
– Your to-do list never seems to get any shorter
– You have many people counting on you
– You could do with some more sleep
– You’re sick of getting lots of colds and coughs
– You don’t have time to go to the gym
– You don’t have time for self-care
If any of the items in the checklist above applies to you, then there are no two ways about it, you need to make self-care a non-negotiable part of your life.
Benefits of self care
You need self care. Why? What do you stand to gain for dedicating your time to take are of yourself?
Please note that to learn about the best self care routine that works for you, you should refer to our article on types and examples of self care here (insert link to ‘Types and Benefits of Self Care’).
1. Health Relationship with Yourself
The fact is, you are the most important person in your life. And if there is a loophole in the relationship you have with yourself, then those you claim to have with people outside and those you love will suffer.
According to The Happy Journals, taking time to stop and do something we love, gives us the opportunity to check in with ourselves. How do we feel? How do we want to feel? Are we doing what we love?
2. Better productivity
One of the benefits of self care is that when you begin to focus on you, which is what matters first, then you will begin to have clearer view of your vision and purpose. You can’t give people what you don’t have. And the truth is, you’re not the only option anyone has. But when it all boils down to reality, you’re the only person you actually belong to.
So immediately you begin to say ‘No’ to most responsibilities that aren’t really yours but imposed on you, then your attention begins to shift to what you actually need yourself.
3. Enhanced self-esteem
A proper analysis of yourself helps you understand the values you behold. The moment you take a step back and fold hands to take care of yourself, you begin to see how important you ate to people, and then people also begin to appreciate the void you feel.
This can go a long way in boosting yourself esteem, enhances your ability to command respect and appreciation for those who have actually taken you for granted in the past.
4. Fights stress and illness:
When you neglect self care, you wear yourself out. You also reduce your ability to support and look after those who are important to you.
The simple logic is, the more you give out, the more you reduce. And at some points in time, you need to withdraw to replenish yourself, and fight off stress and illnesses.
5. More to give.
When you focus and priotize yourself, you might think you’re being selfish. But the truth is, self-care gives you the resources you need to be compassionate to others as well.
As analyzed earlier, giving compassion is a bit like filling a bucket; you can’t fill someone else’s if you don’t have enough of your own.
So when you focus on building more on yourself and regaining, maintaining your sanity, then your loved one stand a chance to gain even more from you.
I hope this helps someone today!